Debra Kay Loughrin

Debra Kay Loughrin

June 24, 1953 - May 28, 2024

Obituary

RUTLAND - Debra Kay (Merkel) Loughrin died peacefully at her home in Rutland, Wis., in the early morning of May 28, 2024. She was 70 years old.


Debra “Debbie” was born in Appleton, Wis., on June 24, 1953, as the youngest of five children to Ivan and Ethel (Sell) Merkel. She began dating the love of her life, Peter “Pete” Loughrin, when they were juniors at Appleton West High School. Debbie and Pete were married on Dec. 15, 1973, and shortly thereafter moved to Madison, Wis., after Pete finished his bachelor’s degree. They had five children together, Jason (Elizabeth) Loughrin, Beth Rauch, Ryan (Veronica) Loughrin, and twins, Emily (Zenon) Kochan and Sara (Joel) Marshall. All five children currently reside in the Madison or Milwaukee areas and collectively have Debbie and Pete’s 10 grandchildren, Ian, Patrick and Claire (Jason); Brooke (Beth); Tai (Ryan); Kailey and Olivia (Emily); and Makenzie, Sydney and Blake (Sara).


Debbie happily assumed the caretaker role for her and Pete’s young family, which at one time included five kids all under the age of 5. She adored being a mother, starting a trend of selfless service that would continue her entire life. Debbie was always there for her kids, attending events, activities, and games with a smile on her face and joy in her heart. She also volunteered her time at schools and other organizations and devoted herself to setting up her kids to lead successful lives of their own.


When her kids were older, Debbie returned to school to complete her nursing degree at Edgewood College, graduating summa cum laude in 1998. She then took on a new caretaker role, serving as a Registered Nurse at the Madison School District, Sunny Hill Nursing Home, UW Hospital, and Dean Medical Center where she excelled in patient care under difficult circumstances.


Debbie put her working career aside to focus on her own health due to heart ailments and rheumatoid arthritis. She was later diagnosed with ovarian cancer and aggressively battled that disease for the rest of her life. Many of her doctors and friends commented on her strength as she fought her health challenges with courage and conviction.


Through it all, Debbie loved spending time with her family whenever possible. Debbie was also a master quilter and enjoyed gardening and beach vacations.


Debbie is survived by her husband of 50 years, Pete; all her children and grandchildren listed above; sister, Carol (Boyd) Grimmer; and numerous nieces and nephews. She is preceded in death by her parents; sister, Lois (Paul) Brown; and brothers, Ronald (Connie) Merkel and Gary (Mary Alice) Merkel.


While her family and friends are heartbroken, they are grateful for the time they were given with the help of her care team at UW Carbone Cancer Center.


A celebration of life will be held at GUNDERSON OREGON FUNERAL AND CREMATION CARE, 1150 Park St., Oregon, from 2 p.m. until 6 p.m. on Tuesday, June 11, 2024, with a time of remembrance at 3 p.m., led by John Berg. All are welcome to attend. Debbie will be interred at Roselawn Memorial Park in Monona in a private family ceremony at a future date.


In lieu of flowers, please consider making a donation in Debbie’s honor to Wisconsin Ovarian Cancer Alliance (WOCA) or Gynecological Cancer Research in care of UW Carbone Cancer Center. Online condolences may be made at www.gundersonfh.com.


Gunderson Oregon

Funeral & Cremation Care

1150 Park St.

(608) 835-3515

Events

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Celebration of Life
Tue Jun 11, 2024 @ 2:00 PM - 6:00 PM CDT
Gunderson Oregon Funeral & Cremation Care • 1150 Park St., Oregon, WI 53575
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Sue Zimmer
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Debbie was my best friend! I met her in cesarean families when she was pregnant with Ryan. She was worried about who she’d call if she went into labor before her c-section date. I told her to call me. That night she did! I went to her home and stayed with Jason and Beth so she and Pete could go to the hospital together and have baby Ryan! We’ve been close friends ever since! My husband and I are godparents to Emily! We haven’t been super close all the time through the years but we come back together easily and like we’ve never been apart. She’s one of the most amazing and caring women I’ve ever known! Her bravery, kindness, determination, courage, love and compassion are all qualities she possessed that were unsurpassed! I loved her so very much and will miss her terribly!
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Virgene Schroeder
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I was lucky to teach the Loughrin children at Orchard Ridge. They were a wonderful family.The parents were very supportive of their children and helped with many events at school. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time of great loss.
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Christina Fok
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Peter, Jason and the Loughrin Family, Our thoughts and prayers are with you all during this difficult time of mourning an amazing and beautiful mother and wife. Sincerely, Christina Fok
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Martha (Wangerin) Schroud
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Pete, So sorry to hear of your loss. It was always apparent with all the years of us working together, how much you adored Debbie. May you find comfort in saying your final goodbyes and cherish all the memories. Sincerely, Martha (Wangerin) Schroud
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Tom McCarthy
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Peter I’m sorry for your loss. Debbie was one of the few people you meet in life that is pure of soul. She was always smiling and had such a gentle nature. I will keep her and your family in my prayers. Tom McCarthy class on 72
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Mike Grimmer
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Debbie is remembered by my wife and I as the kindest and most inviting presence. My memories go back to when she and Pete were dating, and Chef Boyardee pizza at my grandma's house on the way back from Boy Scouts. Then, seeing all five cousins as kids - several swinging from bunk beds. Later it was just how she invited peace into family gatherings. And of, course, memories of Pete as her Champion - which set such an example for husbands. Thank you Aunt Debbie, Mike Grimmer (nephew)

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