
Patricia A. "Patty" Dean
April 04, 1960 - October 06, 2021
Obituary
MIDDLETON - Patricia Acker Dean died Wednesday, Oct. 6, 2021, at her home in Middleton, Wis. Patty was born in Madison, Wis., on April 4, 1960, to Vincent F. and Theresa M. Acker. She and her future husband, Michael J. Dean, met in the hallway of Middleton High School in the fall of 1975. With a surname that filled two homerooms, Patty became interested in the boy from Madison’s east side who was unlikely to be a relation. That boy promptly asked her to homecoming. Patty and Mike were wed on Oct. 5, 1984, and moved shortly thereafter to Dallas, Texas, to start their respective careers in contract hospitality sales and commercial real estate. After a further stint in Massachusetts, they moved back to Middleton in 1995, where they raised their three children.
Her cancer diagnosis in 2005 didn’t slow her down. Seemingly with unlimited practical knowledge, energy, and creativity, she and Mike started several successful businesses and volunteered at Elm Lawn School, St. Bernard Parish and in various local clubs. Assembling an extensive tool collection, Patty could be often seen wearing a tool belt (with authority). As one relative said, “she could do more in one day than most do in a month!” With a keen interest in crafts, she was an accomplished sewer and, later in life, began to quilt with a long-arm quilting machine. Her quilt treasures have found homes in many states and often for people she hardly knew. Her strawberry jam was legendary, as was her salsa.
She loved being at her Little St. Germain lake home that she designed, riding the Vilas County bike trails, boating, fish frys, family, aerobic classes, traveling to visit her children and grandchildren, Packers, and all things Badgers. Usually soft-spoken, some say she was the loudest fan in Section E. Always calm, with inexhaustible patience, she made everyone around her better. In the last three years she fought the cancer with courage and grace, spending many days in clinics and treatment rooms in Madison and at Mayo Clinic. As she did all her life, she outperformed expectations time and time again.
Patty is survived by her husband, Michael; brothers, Charles (Kathy) Acker, Ronald Acker, Steven (Amondee) Acker and Bradley Acker; sisters, Karen Acker and Heidi (Rick) Yelk; mother-in-law, Margaret C. Dean, Naples, Fla.; daughters, Dr. Diana Dean Evans (Dr. Timothy), Tampa, Fla., and Darcy Dean Miller (Matthew), Edina, Minn.; son, Joseph M. Dean, Nashville, Tenn.; sister-in-law, Ellen Dean McNeary (James), Rosemount, Minn.; and brother-in-law, Kyle C. Dean, Milwaukee. She is further survived by her grandchildren, Ella P. Evans and Edward S. Evans, Tampa, Fla.; nieces, Margaret and Bridget McNeary; and nephews, Cyril and Jack Yelk. Patty was preceded in death by her father, Vincent Acker; mother, Theresa; and sister, Eileen Bouquet (Brad).
Visitation will be held at GUNDERSON WEST FUNERAL AND CREMATION CARE, 7435 University Ave., Middleton, from 9 a.m. until 12 noon on Saturday, Oct. 16, 2021. A celebration of life will be held at the funeral home at 12 noon on Saturday, with Father Brian Wilk presiding, followed by a reception at the family home. Burial will take place at Resurrection Cemetery at a later date.
The family wishes to thank the dedicated professionals at SSM Hospice, as well as the many friends whose constant support the family will never forget.
In lieu of flowers, memorials in Patty’s name may be made to the St. Bernard Middleton Parish Center Renovation fund or to Camp Gray (Reedsburg, Wis.). Online condolences may be made at www.gundersonfh.com.
“A man is in love, how do I know?
He came a walk with me, and he told me so
In a song he sang, and then I knew
A man is in love with you.
A man is in love, how did I hear?
I heard him talk too much whenever you're near
He called your name when his eyes were closed
A man is in love and he knows.
A man is in love, how did I guess?
I figured it out while he was watching you dress
He'd give you his all, if you'd but agree
A man is in love and he's me.”
Gunderson West
Funeral & Cremation Care
7435 University Ave.
(608) 831-6761
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Visitation
Sat Oct 16, 2021 @ 9:00 AM - 12:00 PM CDT
Gunderson West Funeral & Cremation Care • 7435 University Ave., Middleton, WI 53562
Funeral Service
Sat Oct 16, 2021 @ 12:00 PM - 12:30 PM CDT
Gunderson West Funeral & Cremation Care • 7435 University Ave., Middleton, WI 53562
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Daniel Kelly
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Dear Dean Family - Our hearts are with you during this difficult time. Let the beautiful memories flow! All our love- Dan Kelly Family
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Sarah Sanders
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I wouldn’t be here to write this if it weren’t for Patty. When I was five and Patty six we went to Pheasant Branch preserve to play. It was Spring or early Summer and the water level in the creek was much higher than normal. It was well above the stepping stones where the creek crossed the path and was moving with a good deal of force. Patty went ahead of me. The water was above our knees. As I was crossing the current knocked me over and started carrying my downstream. The water was up to my chest and it’s force was so strong I couldn’t get myself upright. It knocked around as it pulled me further away from the crossing. There were about six older boys on the bank at the crossing. They all stared as the water dragged me toward the bend in the stream, where the water would be over my head and I knew I would drown. I was hoping they’d help but they just stood and stared. Suddenly, Patty was back in the water, charging toward me like a racehorse, her eyes locked on me with determination. Barely bigger than me, I don’t know how she wasn’t swept into the current herself. Somehow, she reached me, grabbed my outstretched hand and pulled me to my feet. She then led me back upstream, never letting go of my hand until we were safely out of the water. I’ll never forget it. Patty was one of the most self-possessed persons I’ve ever known. Even at the age of five, which was her age when I met her, she had the aura of an ancient, bearded sage ensconced on a misty mountaintop. Her beautiful hazel eyes were steady and calm and took in everything around her. She didn’t flounder around or do clueless things like most kids. Everything she did seemed deliberate and well-planned. In the second grade she was already making her own clothes and was really good at it. She possessed the natural confidence to master skills well beyond her age. She took on challenges without blinking and excelled at them. She used to climb onto her bed frame and launch herself into a full air summersault, landing perfectly on her mattress. Completely fearless. The only think I ever knew her to be afraid of was the Big Dipper. I don’t remember which older sibling this was attributed to, but it kept her from sleeping in a tent out on the lawn with us on summer nights. She was sure that the Big Dipper was going to swoop down, scoop her up, and carry her off to the sky. There was no convincing her otherwise - she was sure if she spent the night outdoors she’d be stolen away by that constellation. In all other things, Patty was completely cool and collected. Everything she did had an elegant efficiency. Even in adolescence, when most of us were getting stupider by the day, Patty never seemed to take a false step. While many of us were doing idiotic things, dating all the wrong people, and doing stupid teenage things, Patty found a smart, steady guy and stuck with him for life. She made everything look deceptively simple.
Now that the Big Dipper has carried her up to the stars, her light will shine even brighter and expand farther than ever. Yet when there is a need, I’m sure she’ll find a way to reach through the veil with a beautiful, firm, but gentle hand. Rest in Greatness.
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Otto & Gillian Gebhardt
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Mike and family, We are so sad to hear of Patty's passing, she was so fun and witty, never afraid to speak her mind. Although, we didn't see each other often, we have shared some really great times over the years, fond memories that will be held close to our hearts. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. Our deepest sympathy, Otto & Gillian
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The Braun Family
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With deepest sympathy,
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Waldmann Construction Office
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Our thoughts and prayers are with you. The Waldmann Construction Team!
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Mick and Peggy Mullee
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Mike and family, Peggy and I send our prayers for Patty and your family. May Patty and all the faithful departed, through the Mercy of God Rest in Peace. Mick and Peggy Mullee