Berndetta Ann Carman

My sincere sympathy to the Carman family, she loved you all so much. I got to enjoy cleaning for your Mom for 5 years, we shared many talks and cookies! She always talked of where to move to next because of her eyesight, but she never knew where the right place would be, now she has no worries and is at peace. I will truly miss Detta, as will many others at Northern Lights Village. Lorna Selleck

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Remembering all the good times with Detta and her husband Dick over the years. So sorry for your loss.

I only knew Detta for a short time as her next door neightbor for a nearly a year and a half. We first met even before I moved in, striking up a lengthy, friendly driveway conversation at our mailboxes as I worked on readying my new home beside hers. Despite our age difference, there was immediate bonding. She was special from day one: caring, kind, and thoughtful. She welcomed me to my new community home and even into her own personal one as well. In the following months we shared stories of family, our own past experiences, humor and seriousness, lessons learned. We discovered we were nearly neighbors over 30 years ago, We had both lived on the same street, a handful of houses apart but a few years in between, so we missed each other. We shared a few meals and walks during our short time as neighbors. We chatted at the community Monday gazebo gatherings or on the driveway near the mailboxes, and in her home. She always offered a smile, lent an ear, offered advice, anything I needed to borrow. There were even times when she anticipated ways she could help me before I realized it. “That’s what neighbors are for” was her friendly reply. So I will miss my friend, my neighbor. I will miss her friendship, optimism, thoughtfulness and spirit. A very special lady. I regret our times together were few. I cherish those we had all the same. Rest in peace, my special friend. Vicki Gustafson